Five Pieces of Advice from Past Brides You Won’t Want to Ignore
Getting married is one of the most exciting moments in your life; from the time you accept the proposal until the moment you exchange your vows. You will experience feelings you’ve never experienced, go through moments you wish you could have handled better once they’re said and done, and you will have more stress and more excitement all mixed together at the same time that you won’t even know what to do with yourselves.
Of course, hindsight is always 20/20, so after the wedding you will look back at the planning process and the day itself and make a hundred realizations that will have you wishing you did things differently or handled them differently. Don’t worry; it happens to all brides. Since you never quite know what to expect when it comes to your wedding day and what will happen during the planning process, we have a few suggestions from brides who have already been there, done that.
Fight it Out
We’re not suggesting that you fight with your husband-to-be every step of the way, or that you pick fights with him along the way. What we are suggesting, however, is that you go ahead and say what’s on your mind and have disagreements. Too many couples try really hard not to do this. They think that it’s important to stay on the same page and be a team when they are in the middle of wedding planning, and they’re afraid to fight. They’re afraid to say what’s on their mind or engage because the other might start wondering, “Why do I want to marry this person?” Planning your wedding is the first step to many major life moments that you will handle together, and it’s your first practice at seeing how the two of you will manage situations in your life together rather than watching the other handle situations in their own separate life. It’s a great way to get to know one another even more before you become a family.
Go to Counseling
A lot of couples skip out on the counseling because they don’t feel it’s worth their while. Their church might make it optional instead of mandatory, or perhaps they are not getting married in church and needn’t bother with it. Take it from couples who have been there; counseling before marriage is a great idea. Even if your relationship is healthy and good, it’s still a great idea to go ahead with counseling anyway. It’s better to get to know people in a deep understanding than it is to ignore it. For example, you might not yet have discussing children, finances, religion or other ideals that will play a part in your future. You want to learn these things, so learn them. Additionally, you’ll take away from this premarital counseling a number of things that will benefit you greatly in the future, even if it’s just a bible verse that puts things into perspective.
Skip the Favors
You don’t have to give your guests a favor for coming to your wedding. You’re already giving them cake, food, drinks and a night of fun without a cover fee, so skip the expensive favors and save that money for another part of your wedding day! No one cares about the favors anyway. When was the last time you said, “OMG! Miniature bubbles and a tiny picture frame!” with excitement? You didn’t; and you haven’t a clue where to find even one of the wedding favors you’ve ever received in the past, do you? Skip them; they’re pointless and arbitrary, and a complete waste of money.
Splurge on the Honeymoon
If you are going to splurge on any part of your wedding, make it the honeymoon. It’s the time you’ll spend together as a newly married couple, and it should always be one of the best vacations of your life. If you’re planning on spending a lot, put that money here. It’s worth it. You should be able to go somewhere you want to go, do the things you want to do and even indulge in things you would normally never pay for. You’ll take a number of vacations over the course of your life, but you’re never going to take one this exciting and this special ever again. This is a once-in-a-lifetime trip that deserves a little bit of do-it-up style. Splurge; and don’t be afraid to ask airlines, hotels and even rental car agencies for some honeymoon discounts. You might not get anything from them, but you won’t know until you ask. And they might surprise you with something awesome, like a free upgrade or champagne.
Keep it Simple
One piece of advice from past brides that is overwhelmingly big advice is to keep things simple. It’s just better in the long run. It’s important to remember that this is the day you should remember as the most magical day of your life, not the most expensive or even as the day you spent too much money on trying to make perfect so you could impress your guests. Guess what? No one cares but you. If someone is going to try and take away the happiness from your wedding day by judging you for spending less than $150 per plate on dinner or not having a designer gown, ask yourself why you want that person in your life. This is your day; it should be what you want. If you want to spend a million dollars, do it. If you don’t, don’t; it’s really just that simple.
At the end of the day, your wedding will be over before you know it. It will end so quickly you won’t know where the time went, and you won’t be able to believe some of the things you did or worried about. Let past brides help you ease your stress by taking away some of the things you might worry about now. We’ve been there and done that, so we know what’s important and what isn’t; so let it go and enjoy.